What is advice? “A proposal for an appropriate course of action.” I try not to take advice from anyone because you never know what is in peoples hearts. People base everything on their knowledge of themselves and their own situations. Which may not even be remotely close to mine. Most people do not have good intentions for you. Hearing the wrong thing and potentially following it because you don’t necessarily know the way doesn’t seem like a good idea to me. “They” say to learn from other people’s mistakes. How can this even be logical? How can I benefit from your mistakes if I don’t know the thoughts and feelings of the experience? I feel way too much, and if I can’t feel out a certain situation I could never learn from it. “Life is a tragedy to those who feel, and a comedy to those who think.” Horace Walpole. I think I fall in between those two categories… Sometimes after you feel, you need to think. But do you go back to feeling or stick with thinking? “Follow 100% of your brain and 50% of your heart.” I got this advice the other day. It seems to be the most fitting. Not telling me their personal point of view, not giving me any ideas… Just telling me to follow myself. And listen to what my heart and my brain are saying.

Maybe good advice… but hard to follow. How do you follow your brain, if most of the time you let your heart lead the way? How do you continue to follow your heart if you don’t even know if it’s taking you in the right direction?

Do you create your own situations or are things predetermined for you and you’re just living out a script that was already drawn up? I believe in making decisions for myself. I believe that there IS a greater purpose for me but if I choose not to make it happen then it never will. I don’t want to think that my life is just destined to follow down a certain path. I can choose my direction and my purpose. How beautiful is that? I’ve always chosen happiness over anything else. But my mistake has been to put the belief of it and that hope for it in someone elses hands and never my own. It’s time to take matters into my own hands, whether I follow my brain or my heart or anything else.. It’s my decision. You can only move forward, but in looking back… that is when you learn.